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Is the crushing burden of information and communication overload dragging you down? By day's end, do you feel overworked, overwhelmed, stressed, and exhausted? Would you like to be more focused, productive, and competitive, while remaining balanced and in control?

Author Jeff Davidson says, "If you're continually facing too much information, too much paper, too many commitments, and too many demands, you need Breathing Space."

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Tuesday, March 20, 2018

The Teething Phone - Breathing Space Blog

Sitting in the park, I noticed an elderly lady with a baby. I assumed it was her grandchild. The baby was mouthing on a cell phone.

At first I thought this cell phone was a toy but a closer view confirmed that was an active cell phone with a brightly lit screen. What a tremendous metaphor for these times. Here is a baby whose life is likely to be intricate linked with a cell phone, but for now, he gets to bite into it.

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Friday, March 09, 2018

The Daily Bombardment - Breathing Space Blog

The average person is bombarded daily by more information than he or she can even comprehend. With each passing second on Earth more than 200 years worth of information becomes newly available, based on average human viewing, reading and listening speeds.

Each time we open another magazine, turn on the TV, visit a website, receive an email, get today's mail, and engage in any other information or communication-related activity, we are adding to the heap of information and communication that we've already acquired. The onslaught is never-ending and the potential danger is insidious.

Too many people today represent vast warehouses of uncategorized and un-assessed information. We are virtually walking “incompletion units” with so much undone, and it is taking a toll on our psyches. Whether or not we understand the phenomenon, the mental strain of living in an era of unfettered information and communication flow is considerable. We must take comprehensive steps to gain or regain control, and to be able to make effective decisions, stay competitive and productive, finish our work on time, and have a life for the rest of the day.

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Saturday, March 03, 2018

Too Speedy for Our Own Good? - Breathing Space Blog

Is there any real value to your already hectic life to this development:  Google Fiber shows speeds 100 times faster than regular a cable Internet. "Bypassing the local cable and phone companies, Google has spent months and an unknown amount of money pulling its own optical fiber through the two-state Kansas City region."

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Wednesday, February 28, 2018

Costly Distractions - Breathing Space Blog

Writer Marta Vogel tells us that early man examined his food to ensure it 1) was dead and 2) had no insects. 21st century man barely looks at his food; he's fixated on the package. Corporate giants figured out that consumers could become thoroughly hooked on "package literature."

Recognizing our craving for information, advertisers offer alluring product packaging. The average cereal box contains about 2,000 words, equal to eight pages of a book. Generic products, at the same basic quality as mid-level brands, were once sold by vendors who knew that people might not buy "wordless" cardboard and risk incurring "package deprivation."

Package deprivation? It's no surprise today that most of our population -- not just kids -- wears clothes or accessories with slogans and messages on them. Attraction to labeling and package copy robs you of breathing space. Minute bits of extraneous data have a cumulative impact.

Other symptoms of information overload abound. Do you attempt to think, converse, study, or even make love with distractions? Do you go through the motions of attempting to concentrate with office noise? Do you attempt to converse while on the Web or watching TV? Do you "need" to wind down before bed time in front of a screen? You deserve a break today. Eat healthy food and have no reading material or screens in sight.

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Tuesday, February 20, 2018

Motivation is the Key to Success - Breathing Space Blog

On Friday, October 15, 2010, I had the unique opportunity to meet with Anson Dorrance, the legendary coach of the University of North Carolina women’s soccer team. My daughter had attended his wife’s ballet school for 14 years, so I was thoroughly familiar with him as a Chapel Hill resident.

On this evening, which was the basketball tip off night for UNC, NC State, and Duke, thus compelling tens of thousands of fans to stay on campus, Dorrance and Tim Crothers were to appear at Quail Ridge Bookstore to discuss the second edition of their book The Man Watching.

Instead of droves of people attending, only nine people populated the audience. So, what might have been a formal author presentation followed by a question and answer session turned into a rather brief author discussion followed by an extended interpersonal give and take. What’s more, both Dorrance and Crothers stayed for more than an hour. This was a rare night indeed.

I was able to ask them about the UNC women’s soccer team on a level that most fans can never even approach. For example, I posed questions about the health status of several key players who are currently on the injured roster, and others such as whether losses still hurt. I asked what losses really meant when he said, for example, that losing three times in 2009 didn’t prevent the team from becoming the national champions.

Dorrance discussed at length his fundamental belief that men and women are primarily different, a primary reason why he has been successful as a coach. He knows how to reach his players in a way that other coaches cannot because they are treating male and female athletes as essentially the same. I mentally noted that Geno Auriemma of the University of Connecticut shares the feeling: that women are different. Both coaches believe that women want to please others and play for a coach who has confidence in them. Coaches who harness these dual desires can propel their teams faster and further toward their goals.

I learned that Dorrance does not take a regimented approach to coaching. He is not a disciplinarian. The team doesn’t run extra laps when something goes wrong. Rather, while making sure that his team is in top physical shape, he is a constant strategist and motivator. He is constantly talking to his team members, offering them philosophical quotes and insightful observations.

The title of the book about Dorrance, The Man Watching, refers to a poem which he reads to the team at the start of each season. Freshmen and sophomores never quite understand it, but the juniors and seniors assure their underclassmen that by the time they’ve heard the poem three or four times, they’ll get it.

The team engages in a variety of bonding rituals. Any time it’s someone’s birthday, cake will be served, whether it’s after practice or a game. Surprisingly, no utensils are ever passed out. Everyone grabs their portion with their fist and eats it like cave dwellers might do.

Each team develops its own personality as the season goes on. Players often get to games on time by themselves when the games are in driving distance, such as at Duke in Durham, or NC State in Raleigh. When the team does go by bus, sometimes they don’t arrive until a few minutes beforehand. In one celebrated incident, the team left Chapel Hill at 7:15 p.m. for a game against NC State to be held in Cary at 8:00. The team had about 90 seconds to warm up on the field before the game began.

Dorrance was an unlikely candidate for the job he now holds. Self described as a “loose cannon,” he attended UNC studying to be a lawyer following his undergraduate days. He began coaching the men’s soccer team for the extra income, and was asked to take on the women’s team as well. Success came to him quickly. He won the AIA Championship – at the time the equivalent of the national championship. From that point on, his teams won 20 of 28 NCAA championships. This team represents a dynasty virtually unprecedented in college sports. What’s more, the team has had the same coach the whole way through as well as two very long term assistants.

Dorrance’s attitude towards sports is unique. He was always undersized as a high school and college soccer player, so he decided to put in the extra effort to make himself a winner. His attitude is conveyed to his players who, even when behind or not playing up to their best, still know in the back of their minds that they are going to win.

Most impressive about the evening was that Dorrance and Crothers had no notion of stopping. They would have continued to answer questions and chew the lean about soccer, their book, and UNC sports for as long as the handful of us would have listened. The bookstore staff finally came around and told us that we needed to wind it up in the next couple of minutes. So, for that reason alone, the evening with one of the greatest coaches in world history ended.

Thursday, February 15, 2018

Stay in Control - Breathing Space Blog

A reader laments: Many days I am in control for most of the morning and part of the afternoon, but then all of the sudden, like a train derailment, everything seems scattered and out of control.

I suggest that you take mental pauses throughout the day, particularly as new developments occur. The best laid plans often go astray and those people who are able to maintain control know when to let go of one activity and redirect their focus towards another.

Remember as well that being in control is more related to how you feel about the situation than the presence of evidence. Keep reminding yourself that you are, in fact, in control. Ten minutes before the end of the day if your boss springs a one-hour assignment on you that must be done immediately, you can regard this as a major intrusion in your day or you can see it as a professional challenge or an opportunity to demonstrate your overall value to your company. Make a note of the times you have taken on such challenges and bring them up particularly at raise times.

Before, during, and after handling the late assignment thrown on your lap, keep considering the many benefits of completing it. These include learning something new, practicing maintaining grace under fire, and serving as a reminder for you to discuss this type of situation with your boss so that it doesn't happen too frequently.

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Sunday, February 04, 2018

Book: "When You Can You Will" - Breathing Space Blog

Notes from When You Can You Will by Lynne Bernfield, Berkley Books

▪ Subtitle: Why you Can't Always do What You Want to do.. and What to do about it.

▪ You can't hurry change. In our instant soup society you're encouraged to do more, be more, have more, and achieve more. Technology enables us to accomplish more faster. No matter how quickly society moves however, human beings still have to be ready before they can make certain changes.

▪ Human change is evolutionary. You might have to try on the change several times before you're accustomed to the way it feels.

Easy or Hard?
▪ Even if you don't know you're ready to change, your subconscious will know. It will help you to change the easy way or the hard way.

▪ Changes made the easy way are effortless. You often find yourself thinking, saying, and doing things that would have been unthinkable even the day before.

▪ Changes made the hard way can be difficult, unpleasant, and even frightening. You might feel as if you're breaking down or disintegrating, when in fact this will lead to the changes you need to make.

Your Cover Story
▪ Everyone has a cover story, a detailed explanation of who they are and who they are not. Once you discover your cover story, you're free to move on from it.

▪ Pretending to be something you're not means denying something you are. Human beings all come well-equipped with the capacity for denial.

▪ When you ask yourself the question, "What will happen if I make this change?", the answers may tell you exactly what is blocking your path to change. Being more successful might require you to perform better, take more risks, live up to your reputation or say no.

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