"When You Can You Will" - Breathing Space Blog
Notes from When You Can You Will by Lynne Bernfield, Berkley Books
▪ Subtitle: Why you Can't Always do What You Want to do.. and What to do about it.
▪ You can't hurry change. In our instant soup society you're encouraged to do more, be more, have more, and achieve more. Technology enables us to accomplish more faster. No matter how quickly society moves however, human beings still have to be ready before they can make certain changes.
▪ Human change is evolutionary. You might have to try on the change several times before you're accustomed to the way it feels.
Easy or Hard?
▪ Even if you don't know you're ready to change, your subconscious will know. It will help you to change the easy way or the hard way.
▪ Changes made the easy way are effortless. You often find yourself thinking, saying, and doing things that would have been unthinkable even the day before.
▪ Changes made the hard way can be difficult, unpleasant, and even frightening. You might feel as if you're breaking down or disintegrating, when in fact this will lead to the changes you need to make.
Your Cover Story
▪ Everyone has a cover story, a detailed explanation of who they are and who they are not. Once you discover your cover story, you're free to move on from it.
▪ Pretending to be something you're not means denying something you are. Human beings all come well-equipped with the capacity for denial.
▪ When you ask yourself the question, "What will happen if I make this change?", the answers may tell you exactly what is blocking your path to change. Being more successful might require you to perform better, take more risks, live up to your reputation or say no.